Something someone said to me a few weeks back has been haunting me… This super sweet girl says to me in conversation, “You and Derek just have it all together…must be nice to have the best relationship ever, with the cutest kids, and be doing so well with your business!”
WOW!
First, thank you hun for being SO kind, but it kinda stuck with me because perception is a funny thing…
Yes I do have the cutest kids
… and yes God has really moved our business along, but “having it all together, and the best relationship ever”… umm no.
-In recent past we’ve struggled to make ends meet… many, many months.
-I have days where I want to punch a hole in a wall, throw something across the room, lock myself in a closet, or better yet, lock my kids in a closet for being SO frustrating.
-We’ve made tons of mistakes in building our biz, and we’ll continue to make more.
-I can be rude and mean to Derek… sometimes for no good reason.
-Most of the time we are too busy to keep our house picked up… we fondly refer to it as the “crap-splosion”
-Some days I eat 2 or even 3 desserts to deal with the stress of my 2 rather “spirited” toddlers!
-I haven’t worked out with any consistency since before Jackson was born… good grief… that’s not good!
-Sometimes it takes me 2 or 3 days to return a phone call to a friend or mom because either my kids are ALWAYS in my face, I’m working every other minute, or I just have to nap instead of calling them back.
-Derek and I often talk about how we need to make “us” more of a priority…date nights, less work at night, etc.
-I love to cook and try new recipes… but usually end up making the same 4 meals all the time because it’s quicker.
-I’ve cried many a nights after a rough day with my rather strong willed son, usually because I feel like I’m failing in some way.
And I say all this to say, perception is a funny thing… NO ONE has it all together, and that’s the beauty of this journey called life that we are on. The struggling, the growing, and the heartache are what make us better people. It’s ok to fail, it’s ok to fall short of our goals, and it’s definitely ok to have extra ice cream if it helps you get through a hard day.
Can I get an AMEN??
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